Day 7: Join a singles group

Back in September I spent entirely too much money to join a singles group. Events and Adventures plans out activities and pick the ones you want to go to, and pay the associated costs. Every month they have a "new member ice breaker" where a large portion of the members show up to mingle and socialize. I've only been to one so far and it was packed. There were certainly loads of single guys there. I've talked my friend into going with me. I hope it's better than last time. I spent the whole evening on the phone with my bank, explaining to them that I was not currently in Connecticut, spending over a thousand dollars at Rite Aid and Staples on my check card.

Joining groups like these is a great idea. There are free ones, a lesson I learned too late. However, at least I know that the people coming to this are not complete losers, as they could afford the ridiculous sign-up fee.

This group organizes activities such as hang gliding, caving, going to comedy clubs, karaoke, and many more. I might go caving this weekend but I want to feel out the crowd to see if anyone else is going. After caving about a dozen times I realized that it's just not my favorite thing. I think this has largely to do with the last time I went. They made me wear a wetsuit so thick that I couldn't bend my knees, a harness, and one of those helmets with a light on it. "Hey, even though you can't bend your knees, we're going to climb up this wall! Oh, and by 'wall' I mean waterfall that will be trying to drown you!". If I go, I am signing up for the easy one.

Friday, 7pm

My friend came over after work and we made our way to the bar/ restaurant. They reserved the downstairs bar just for this group. That's nice, at least I don't have to explain the lameness of this to someone who just happened to be there while our event is going on. New members get a red name tag, I have a gold name tag. I'm not sure how to feel about this. Also, it says Nancy Botwin on it. We each have a name from a tv show. We're supposed to find other people with character names from the same show. My character is from Weeds, which it turns out hardly anyone has seen. I order nachos as I start to regret not choosing the nametag Jo from the facts of life. I ended up hanging with the 'Facts of life' characters anyway. As the evening goes on it becomes unbearably loud and I have not seen one guy that I want to talk to. Time to go.

Difficulty to initiate contact: 2

Pros

Everyone there is single

The guys there are presumably looking for a girlfriend

Cons

These singles companies seem to attract more women than men

The activities can be spread over a range that makes a lot of them somewhat far